Pessimism is a LOSING strategy
And you don't want to be a loser
One of my flaw is to scroll too much Internet. Through my wanderings, I find anything an everything, especially, a lot of nonsense.
You only need to have a few feeds on different social networks and you are exposed to completely crazy content.
Even if you try to control your feed as much as possible, there are algorithms that slide in and offer you videos or images that make you want to click.
Then the unhealthy curiosity does the trick. We find ourselves scrolling through useless infinite content that will steal our time and for some of them : hurt us.
We will see people living the life we dream of having.
Richer, more beautiful, more beautiful car, more beautiful house… Everything.
By watching these contents, we will create our own hell.
They will generate a lot of anxiety and if you start to compare yourself : some will feel that they aren’t enough, that they have failed, that they are behind in their life …
This generation fed on social networks has created a new category of people: anxious pessimists.
Living crisis after crisis, thinking they are a sacrificed generation, inflation, housing difficulty, dating difficulty, difficulty to build a home … Problems that pile up one after the other and never seem to end.
To be honest, I can understand their feeling.
Me ? I already have a part of my life behind me, I was able to build and even if I am not where I would like to be, I have less pressure on the future.
Even if the future that we are told through the news seems dark, I tell myself that my palette of skills will allow me to bounce back and this eliminates some of the anxiety of this uncertain future.
But I also remember that when I was young, I had a certain fear of the future and if I had been in such a difficult era, I could have seen life in black.
This post is not to judge the pessimists but rather to expose them to the fact that this pessimistic attitude is a losing strategy.
They will feed negative self-fulfilling prophecies, they will not be able to escape the fate they create for themselves.
After years of self-improvement experience, I have gone through all phases.
I myself have had extremely pessimistic phases where I embodied the doomer with no hope for the future.
I was able to compare the phases of my life where I was pessimistic, optimistic and rather neutral.
The result is clear: the optimistic moments of my life are the moments where there has ALWAYS been the most growth.
On the contrary, the moments where I was the most pessimistic about my future were the moments where nothing moved. Or I stagnated, worse, regressed.
Long story short : You are your mood
These years of trying to improve myself made me understand that the mindset makes all the difference.
To be able to do it, you have to think you can do it.
Without the ability to project yourself into your own success, it is impossible to succeed.
And worse, if you don’t think you can, you won’t be able to.
The pessimistic attitude will feed negative beliefs and you will find a way to sabotage yourself.
You have no choice: be optimistic and try to create your dream life.
Be pessimistic and you will sabotage what you do.
What I think I understood through my experience has already been theorized, it is the pygmalion effect (or the Rosenthal effect).
The simple fact that one believes in his abilities improves his abilities and his results.
This is also true for those who believe in you.
If your parents, friends, lover supports you, then you will think that you are capable.
All the more reason not to feed toxic relationships.
If those around you think you are incapable, this will also rub off on you.
If you believe them, the limitations they think you have, you will have.
You cannot afford to stay near to people that belittle you.
Human psychology is vast and complex. In our century where we think we master a great deal of science, there is still inexplicable hidden deep in our brain.
The understanding of the functioning of internal and external energies is limited.
But what we must remember :
Pessimism has the power to sabotage us.
Optimism has the power to build us.
Choose but choose well.
Your life depends on it.
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