Giving too much is self harm
Giving can be toxic too
Giving is tricky.
Behind this act of love and generosity can hide a gesture that will harm you if it's the wrong dose.
We think we can give unlimited amounts, but that's not true.
You can only give what you have too much of.
Whether it's time, money, love, friendship...
Even invisible resources are finite, and if you give away what you don't have, you'll end up empty and poor.
Giving is a noble gesture, but giving what you don't have is self harm.
Many people are far too generous even though their resources are limited.
They help others when they should be helping themselves.
They don't understand that if they don't help themselves, at some point they won't be able to help anyone else.
They don't even understand that they're not giving to others, but stealing from themselves.
This often stems from a lack of self-love.
Since they don't love themselves, they want to please others in order to receive love. They say yes to everything to be seen, to be loved.
But once again, their reasoning is flawed.
Giving in order to receive is the worst motivation.
When others don't recognize their gesture, they'll be frustrated by the lack of consideration. Their giving will be a source of anger.
They expect a return that may never come.
Other people are clever.
They observe and understand how things work.
Predators delight off this unhealthy altruism.
If you give everything to everyone, they'll take advantage of you.
If others take advantage, why shouldn't they?
After all, it's a gift? It's only binding on the giver.
They'll also know how to manipulate him by pressing the right buttons.
By flattering his ego and magnifying it.
But these are just words to extract resources.
The giver will have built his own trap, which he will only be able to close with great loss.
To extract his body from this wolf trap, he will have to lose a limb.
A brutal change in behavior.
Cut off certain relationships.
No one will understand what's going on.
But it's easy to understand: he's given too much and has nothing left.
The solution lies in healthy egoism.
Know the extent of your abilities and know how to say No when giving is too much for you.
Don't attach your value to what you can give. Just because you can't give doesn't mean your value is diminished.
You have to love yourself, because it's by not loving yourself enough that you build up these toxic behaviors.
Amass physical and intellectual wealth to give without return. The moment you expect a return, the gift loses its meaning. Do things because you want to do them, not because you feel obliged to please someone else.
Give, but don't rob from yourself.